we advised one mum how she could manage her shopping trips better with a 3 year old and a 1 year old in tow.Children can become bored very easy so the trick is to let them become involved with the shopping so it doesnt turn into a nightmare for you. If you dread going shopping because your little one or ones will play up, here are ways they can help you without you becoming stressed, resulting in you giving up after buying only a few of the items you need and instead  allowing you to actually enjoy the outing better.
1.Take a little bag of raisins or sandwich to keep children entertained whilst going out shopping. Have a cup of juice handy, a story book for the car or bus journey which is only used for special occasions so they dont become bored with it.Always carry wipes with you incase of a mess. Avoid chocolate, and chocolate buscuits. The last thing you need is a child to reach forward with a chocolate hand and sticky up all the asles of clothing in a supermarket.
2.Planning before you leave will avoid any dissruptions and will give you an edge in an emergency.let children use the bathroom before you leave for a shopping trip.Give them a shopping list if they can read or cut up magazines with fruit and veg in stick them onto cardboard so they can be reused. Let them find them as you go up and down each row in the supermarket.It may be time consuming preparing them before hand but by making it fun for them children will really love it, you will be ever so surprised. Especially if you praise them as they find each item and let them put it into the trolley.if they are all trying to win and get your attention tell them to take it in turns.You could treat them for good behaviour every so often too , a sticker chart works well if funds are limited.
3. If they usually start to play up because you wont give into them to buy a favourite toy they have seen, explain to them we cannot buy toys today and be firm, children need consistency .If you give in to them just to get some peace, they will have won the argument and after all you are the responcible parent setting standards that will be with them for a lifetime they will learn to respect you more as a parent when you do what is right and not just to give up for a quiet life..
4.Carry on walking along with the trolley you may find they lie down on the floor and start kicking as you walk away, they will be shocked that you mean it and either give up and follow you or scream even louder.If you can try to disfuse the situation before it gets to the screaming stage you could distract them with their drink at this stage to take their mind of it. A naughty spot also works it doesnt have to be a step but any place where you insist. A maximum or 3 minutes for a 3 year old 4 minutes for a 4 year old and so on.A naughty step really should be used at home first so a child can get the hang of it and you wont be pulling your hair out in public wondering if people are watching you.
5.Naughty steps or spots only work if you are prepared to carry it through,if you are really having problems managing your childs behaviour and they move off every time you sit them on it you must be persistent in putting them back on it.when they eventually see that you mean business they will learn to sit there until their time is up then they must apologise and say sorry for what ever they have done wrong, then you can give them a big hug and they can carry on playing.Be prepared when you first try it to put them on it you may have to keep taking them back to it up to 100 times or more.You have to if you really want a child to show you respect. You must and I stress must carry it through. Its no use crying feeling sorry for them and give into them when they creep up towards to saying sorry mummy. They must learn to know that its you that makes the decision to let them get up from the naughter spot/step.It will get easier at first then they will ry to push you to see if their old ways can creep back in.be proud of your self for carrying it out , well done, your parenting skills will improve and by spending some time with your children playing games ,baking ,colouring in pictures together etc you will also find that your relationship with them will improve and you can be a happier family after all.
for more free information on parenting visit our main website at www.cheekychumsonline.co.uk
1.Take a little bag of raisins or sandwich to keep children entertained whilst going out shopping. Have a cup of juice handy, a story book for the car or bus journey which is only used for special occasions so they dont become bored with it.Always carry wipes with you incase of a mess. Avoid chocolate, and chocolate buscuits. The last thing you need is a child to reach forward with a chocolate hand and sticky up all the asles of clothing in a supermarket.
2.Planning before you leave will avoid any dissruptions and will give you an edge in an emergency.let children use the bathroom before you leave for a shopping trip.Give them a shopping list if they can read or cut up magazines with fruit and veg in stick them onto cardboard so they can be reused. Let them find them as you go up and down each row in the supermarket.It may be time consuming preparing them before hand but by making it fun for them children will really love it, you will be ever so surprised. Especially if you praise them as they find each item and let them put it into the trolley.if they are all trying to win and get your attention tell them to take it in turns.You could treat them for good behaviour every so often too , a sticker chart works well if funds are limited.
3. If they usually start to play up because you wont give into them to buy a favourite toy they have seen, explain to them we cannot buy toys today and be firm, children need consistency .If you give in to them just to get some peace, they will have won the argument and after all you are the responcible parent setting standards that will be with them for a lifetime they will learn to respect you more as a parent when you do what is right and not just to give up for a quiet life..
4.Carry on walking along with the trolley you may find they lie down on the floor and start kicking as you walk away, they will be shocked that you mean it and either give up and follow you or scream even louder.If you can try to disfuse the situation before it gets to the screaming stage you could distract them with their drink at this stage to take their mind of it. A naughty spot also works it doesnt have to be a step but any place where you insist. A maximum or 3 minutes for a 3 year old 4 minutes for a 4 year old and so on.A naughty step really should be used at home first so a child can get the hang of it and you wont be pulling your hair out in public wondering if people are watching you.
5.Naughty steps or spots only work if you are prepared to carry it through,if you are really having problems managing your childs behaviour and they move off every time you sit them on it you must be persistent in putting them back on it.when they eventually see that you mean business they will learn to sit there until their time is up then they must apologise and say sorry for what ever they have done wrong, then you can give them a big hug and they can carry on playing.Be prepared when you first try it to put them on it you may have to keep taking them back to it up to 100 times or more.You have to if you really want a child to show you respect. You must and I stress must carry it through. Its no use crying feeling sorry for them and give into them when they creep up towards to saying sorry mummy. They must learn to know that its you that makes the decision to let them get up from the naughter spot/step.It will get easier at first then they will ry to push you to see if their old ways can creep back in.be proud of your self for carrying it out , well done, your parenting skills will improve and by spending some time with your children playing games ,baking ,colouring in pictures together etc you will also find that your relationship with them will improve and you can be a happier family after all.
for more free information on parenting visit our main website at www.cheekychumsonline.co.uk
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