There is no doubt that the birth of each child in a family is a special event regardless of birth order.
Baby showers not only "shower" parents to be with the necessary items they will need, but they also provide a means for family and friends to celebrate the upcoming birth of this child.
While many rules for showers have been relaxed over the years there are a few that you may want to consider when planning a shower for the second or third child...

• Since this is a second or possibly third baby shower the guest list should be limited to close friends and family.
  If this is baby number 2 or 3, Aunt Gladys shouldn't be invited unless you see her frequently during the year.
  The exception is guests who were not invited to the first shower (i.
  e.
  new friends or co-workers or that cousin you reconnected with) may be invited to this one.
  
• Baby registries may not be available.
  Remember parents to be may not need all of the essentials.
  Host a diaper, pot luck or clothesline themed shower to ensure that parents to be get what they really need.
  
• Include siblings in the celebration.
  They may be taking on a new role in their life and that should be celebrated as well as the baby.
  A small gift for big brother or big sister would be a nice gesture.
  
• If there is a considerable age gap between the first and second child then the above rules don't necessarily apply and a full scale shower is appropriate.
  This is especially true if parents to be are now in need of all the essentials because what they had either is out of date or has been purged from the house for one reason or another.
  For example, were you aware that car seats have an expiration date of 5-6 years due to the plastic deteriorating? That car seat sitting in the attic or garage may in fact be unsafe for baby to use now resulting in mom and dad needing to buy a new one.
  
• If mom or dad-to-be are uncomfortable having another shower then consider hosting a "meet baby" party after baby is born.
  You can still request that guests bring a meal to help mom and dad out, diapers or article of clothing for baby.
  The added bonus for guests? They'll get to see the baby!

The rest is up to you.
You determine if you're going to have a backyard bbq or a cocktail hour style shower with pink and blue drinks.
This shower does not have to be as formal as the first one might have been, but it should be special.
As long as mom to be is comfortable and guests are having fun then you can call this baby shower a success!