Why work is good when you're getting over a break up
When a relationship ends it can lead to massive changes in your daily routine which could make you feel like your whole life is spiralling out of control.
The thought of turning up at work and going through the motions every day can seem like an insurmountable challenge when you'd rather be crying in a darkened room. Nonetheless, work can help you get your life back.
Killing time
There's no denying that work can take up a lot of time and when our home life is good we often resent the long hours we have to devote to it. In the wake of a break up however, it's great to have something else that needs your focus.
You may need to take a few days off if the break up is very bad - whether that's to get over the shock or simply to make new living arrangements. After all, there's no point coming to work if you're likely to end up crying on the phone to customers or absent-mindedly amputating the wrong limb.
After that, you'll probably find the return to a normal routine reassuring, even if it feels challenging at first.
Water-cooler sympathy
If you're lucky you'll have sympathetic colleagues who will be happy to engage you in all kinds of conversation that doesn't involve relationships or your ex. They may also be able to offer advice or encouragement, or just to sympathise and understand when you're having a rough day.
This is something to be appreciated - if your colleagues are kind that means they think you're a good person who's worth being kind to. Don't take them for granted!
Getting a life
If you do get on with your colleagues then now is the time to think about other social opportunities. After all, your evenings are probably a lot more empty than they used to be, so it's OK to organise a bowling trip or accept that candle party invitation (even if you hate candle parties).
You may be surprised how much you enjoy the new company and activities and if you do bump into your ex it's better to do so when you're with friends, enjoying yourself.
Find a new goal
If you're newly single that means you have more time and energy to devote to your career. Maybe your partner was holding you back, discouraging you from going on that course or attending that conference?
As long as you remain single it should be easier to focus on career goals. Ask your boss for more training, chase that promotion, or ask for a pay rise if you feel you've earned it.
Any progress you make at work will bolster your self esteem and (hopefully) increase your earnings. You can also improve your job stability, which should go a long way to easing those money worries that often arise after a relationship ends.
Even if you're struggling to get out of bed...
Don't hate your job just because it takes you away from your darkened room. See it for the opportunity it is to keep your finances and self esteem in good shape.
When a relationship ends it can lead to massive changes in your daily routine which could make you feel like your whole life is spiralling out of control.
The thought of turning up at work and going through the motions every day can seem like an insurmountable challenge when you'd rather be crying in a darkened room. Nonetheless, work can help you get your life back.
Killing time
There's no denying that work can take up a lot of time and when our home life is good we often resent the long hours we have to devote to it. In the wake of a break up however, it's great to have something else that needs your focus.
You may need to take a few days off if the break up is very bad - whether that's to get over the shock or simply to make new living arrangements. After all, there's no point coming to work if you're likely to end up crying on the phone to customers or absent-mindedly amputating the wrong limb.
After that, you'll probably find the return to a normal routine reassuring, even if it feels challenging at first.
Water-cooler sympathy
If you're lucky you'll have sympathetic colleagues who will be happy to engage you in all kinds of conversation that doesn't involve relationships or your ex. They may also be able to offer advice or encouragement, or just to sympathise and understand when you're having a rough day.
This is something to be appreciated - if your colleagues are kind that means they think you're a good person who's worth being kind to. Don't take them for granted!
Getting a life
If you do get on with your colleagues then now is the time to think about other social opportunities. After all, your evenings are probably a lot more empty than they used to be, so it's OK to organise a bowling trip or accept that candle party invitation (even if you hate candle parties).
You may be surprised how much you enjoy the new company and activities and if you do bump into your ex it's better to do so when you're with friends, enjoying yourself.
Find a new goal
If you're newly single that means you have more time and energy to devote to your career. Maybe your partner was holding you back, discouraging you from going on that course or attending that conference?
As long as you remain single it should be easier to focus on career goals. Ask your boss for more training, chase that promotion, or ask for a pay rise if you feel you've earned it.
Any progress you make at work will bolster your self esteem and (hopefully) increase your earnings. You can also improve your job stability, which should go a long way to easing those money worries that often arise after a relationship ends.
Even if you're struggling to get out of bed...
Don't hate your job just because it takes you away from your darkened room. See it for the opportunity it is to keep your finances and self esteem in good shape.
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