People almost take it for granted that love is supposed to die after marriage.
The worst part is that - they are almost correct.
Almost.
Yes, marriage kills the love in even the most love-filled relationships.
But this has to have a reason - and if we were able to find that reason, maybe we could do something to fix it; thus save our marriages and make the love-filled till we die.
To understand why marriage kills love, we have to know something very important in human psychology: That people want what they can't have.
Unfortunately, after you have married, you are too "easy to have" for your spouse and this works against the love in your marriage.
Yes, I am aware that there seems to be some problems in your marriage (that might even bring you to the brink of divorce) that seem completely unrelated to this, but any serious problem in a marriage has "lack of love" in its roots.
Yes, this is the whole issue.
And we can change this situation.
How? By showing your spouse that you aren't someone who's "practically theirs".
You must show your spouse that you are not their property, but an equal individual who might not want to do what is asked from them.
You are not that easy to have at all - prove it to your spouse.
Once your spouse notices that you do not behave like his or her property at all, and see that you are refusing a number of things now (that you wouldn't a week ago), this will suddenly create an air of "inaccessibility" around you.
This will make your spouse want you more, since now you seem unreachable!