Being among friends is fun. You will have great moments with your friends. When a number of friends get together, they form a circle. This friend circle becomes a strong unit. This circle makes the moments of celebration happier and enjoyable. At the times of difficulty, this circle acts as a great solace. But at times, this circle becomes so complex that its members find themselves in a huge jumble of complexities. With the passage of time, the friendship among them turns more and more complex. It becomes almost impossible to get rid of this complexity.
No one in this world resembles the other. 100% resemblance between two people is something not to think about. Twins look and act different. Husband and wife have different purposes in their lives. Students trained by the same teachers have different ways of thinking. Members of the same party have colliding opinions. So is with friends. Though they are from the same circle, they have their own ways of thinking, reacting and perceiving. So they may find each other similar at the beginning. They, in the long run, realize that they are totally different personalities. A prime difference that may change the shape of the whole circle is the level of understanding. One may explain to the other but s/he may not understand even a bit. Having come from the different families and communities, they all understand differently. A friend does something that annoys the other. When asked for clarification, one explains but the other one is not satisfied with the logics. Your friends may shout at you for not attending a very rare get-together. Your critical circumstances may not be allowing you to attend it but when you put forward your reasons for not coming, they will not understand you since they are not in your position. One may try to fix it but won't work well.
One crash can leave tens of irreparable cracks. Two or more friends argue on something they have misunderstood in different ways. The argument grows bigger and more violent. Then there is a silence. They no more talk to each other. Somehow other few friends manage to bring them back but they are not the same anymore. The frank and friendly way isn't there among them. And to add up, another quarrel takes place. The number of friends disliking each other grows. This makes the circle a chaotic one. A loud-sounding group turns to a silent one. They meet and have gatherings but there isn't the same charm in their presence. No one is happy as they used to be.
This violent silence is something that can turn into an irreversible state. Some may hope to get everything fixed and settled but in vain. The one not involved in the arguments feels that the silence is just for some time but those facing each other remain rigid with their best friend called 'ego'. You may try your best to convince them. You desperately want them to talk nicely to each other. You wish to see the circle as before. You feel awkward when in the group you find your closest friends not talking to each other. But sad news is you can't do anything. You finally realize - "It's impossible".
No one in this world resembles the other. 100% resemblance between two people is something not to think about. Twins look and act different. Husband and wife have different purposes in their lives. Students trained by the same teachers have different ways of thinking. Members of the same party have colliding opinions. So is with friends. Though they are from the same circle, they have their own ways of thinking, reacting and perceiving. So they may find each other similar at the beginning. They, in the long run, realize that they are totally different personalities. A prime difference that may change the shape of the whole circle is the level of understanding. One may explain to the other but s/he may not understand even a bit. Having come from the different families and communities, they all understand differently. A friend does something that annoys the other. When asked for clarification, one explains but the other one is not satisfied with the logics. Your friends may shout at you for not attending a very rare get-together. Your critical circumstances may not be allowing you to attend it but when you put forward your reasons for not coming, they will not understand you since they are not in your position. One may try to fix it but won't work well.
One crash can leave tens of irreparable cracks. Two or more friends argue on something they have misunderstood in different ways. The argument grows bigger and more violent. Then there is a silence. They no more talk to each other. Somehow other few friends manage to bring them back but they are not the same anymore. The frank and friendly way isn't there among them. And to add up, another quarrel takes place. The number of friends disliking each other grows. This makes the circle a chaotic one. A loud-sounding group turns to a silent one. They meet and have gatherings but there isn't the same charm in their presence. No one is happy as they used to be.
This violent silence is something that can turn into an irreversible state. Some may hope to get everything fixed and settled but in vain. The one not involved in the arguments feels that the silence is just for some time but those facing each other remain rigid with their best friend called 'ego'. You may try your best to convince them. You desperately want them to talk nicely to each other. You wish to see the circle as before. You feel awkward when in the group you find your closest friends not talking to each other. But sad news is you can't do anything. You finally realize - "It's impossible".
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