Does it seem that your marriage is on the brink of breaking up even though you are doing all you can to prevent that from happening? Well, there is one concept you should remember while you are in the midst of trying to save your union.
That concept dictates that you cannot save a marriage or maintain a healthy one by endlessly sacrificing.
What this basically means is that it is fruitless to try and solve the problems of your marriage by sacrificing yourself and over-compromising.
This is really not a reliable tactic if you notice that your marriage is on the verge of destruction.
If you recognize that you have a fairly stable union, then it may work in that case.
However, avoid it at all costs if your marriage is in really big trouble.
I can use my marriage as the perfect example.
My husband told me one day that he was ready to get a divorce, which completely shocked and devastated me.
I spent a lot of time trying to convince him that that would not be the right move, however the begging and compromising did more harm than good.
The more I begged, the more desperate I started to seem in his eyes, resulting in him becoming more frustrated and fed up with me than before.
Imagine my shock when I realized his reaction to my self-sacrificing! However, I was fortunate enough to realize that I was on the wrong path and corrected it before it was too late.
Take note of what I did so you can follow the same path in holding onto your marriage.
Learn to play the game according to the rules.
Begging just does not work when your marriage is in shambles.
What will work is if you show your spouse how much you are worth so they will learn to fall in love with you again.
Show that you can be independent and exist happily without them, as people will start to strive to get the things that they cannot have.