So your ex broke up with you and you want them back.
Most people when trying to win back their lost love commit some simple mistakes.
These simple mistakes are quite easy to make and are silly but in truth they are deadly.
These mistakes will push your ex away from you and you might lose your ex forever.
It isn't important to know these mistakes to avoid committing them.
So read every word of this article carefully and make sure you don't commit the mistakes...
Deadly Mistake #1 - Worrying About the Breakup or Your Ex This is what everyone does.
As soon as the breakup happens, they begin to worry about the breakup and waste time worrying about their ex.
Don't waste time worrying.
Life is too short.
Get over it.
They may be the best one for you but still you must not spend time worrying.
Shift your focus to the present.
Get the trash out of your mind and be in the now.
If you think about the past or the future, you are burning energy on the uncontrollable.
Burning energy on the uncontrollable is also known as suffering.
You can win back your ex.
Just get over it and shift your focus to what you are doing.
Solutions: · Read an interesting book · Revive an old hobby or passion · Play a sport · Join the gym · Go out with friends Deadly Mistake #2 - Message Terrorism Most people immediately after a breakup bombard their ex partners with hundreds of calls and text messages.
If you do this you will appear needy.
Neediness is a killer of attraction in every relationship.
So stop bombarding your ex with phone calls and text messages.
If you do it, your ex is likely to not return your calls or even worse block your number.
Your ex will get away as far as possible from you if you do this.
Give them the space they need.
Solutions: · Write a letter telling your ex that the breakup was the best thing for both of you (Your ex will become more receptive once you send them this) Deadly Mistake #3 - Being Codependent Codependency is the main cause of failure.
If your relationship is interdependent there will be no problems.
All successful marriages are due to interdependence.
Your relationship must have most likely ended due to a codependent relationship.
Both of you have your own personal boundary.
When you are in a relationship, the boundaries bond and pool resources.
There must be mutual sharing of resources to experience an interdependent relationship.
In other words both of you must have a Win-Win behavioral pattern.
Unfortunately due to loss of passion and intimacy, relationships fall into a subtle Win-Lose behavioral pattern.
One person sucks in all the resources from the other person's boundary and leaves them with nothing.
This causes stress to the other person.
The stress leads them to psychological atrophy and depression if it doesn't stop.
So make sure your relationship is interdependent.