Understanding Men: How To Stop Your Man From Leaving You By Meeting New Men
For women who struggle with the concept of understanding men, this article is for you.
A lot of women who are naturally social find that their normal habits have to be changed when they get into a long-term relationship with a man, simply because he isn't happy that she's being so friendly with other guys.
He's basically just jealous.
I felt the same way, until my wife explained how by her meeting new male friends, this was actually strengthening our marriage.
I was dubious, but this is what made me change my mind.
1.
What Was Going Through My Head...
When she first told me that she wanted to pretend for a night that we were single again, I immediately told her "no".
I don't know what she said, but I still went along with it in the end.
We ended up going to a mutual friend's party.
He was celebrating his 30th birthday.
I let her go and mingle and she told me that I had to forget about her, take off each of our rings and go to meet new women as well.
This is her reasoning for that.
2.
Greater Appreciation I was initially feeling quite sceptical.
I kept my eye on her the whole night, but to my own horror, I found that I was actually feeling more and more like I was single again as the night progressed.
I met a lot of new people, men and women and really enjoyed simply chatting to them.
My jealousy was unfounded.
I realised that it was simply a result of my insecurities.
The fact that I was scared that she would find someone better made me hold her back in the first place.
3.
The Lesson I Learned Basically, we go out at least once a month to social events now and we take off our rings and simply mingle and have fun.
There is no harm involved and by doing so, we've found that our trust is stronger than ever.
We confessed at the end of the first night that we both were keeping an eye on each other throughout the night and that we both felt jealous.
However, by taking the leap, we now have a greater appreciation for each other when we leave the party and go home together.
If you have trouble understanding men, just realize that we're jealous beings.
We're probably just as jealous as you are though.
We are scared of losing you, but if you simply tell your man that you're his and let him mingle as a single man, he would realise that all his fears are simply caused by his ego.
A lot of women who are naturally social find that their normal habits have to be changed when they get into a long-term relationship with a man, simply because he isn't happy that she's being so friendly with other guys.
He's basically just jealous.
I felt the same way, until my wife explained how by her meeting new male friends, this was actually strengthening our marriage.
I was dubious, but this is what made me change my mind.
1.
What Was Going Through My Head...
When she first told me that she wanted to pretend for a night that we were single again, I immediately told her "no".
I don't know what she said, but I still went along with it in the end.
We ended up going to a mutual friend's party.
He was celebrating his 30th birthday.
I let her go and mingle and she told me that I had to forget about her, take off each of our rings and go to meet new women as well.
This is her reasoning for that.
2.
Greater Appreciation I was initially feeling quite sceptical.
I kept my eye on her the whole night, but to my own horror, I found that I was actually feeling more and more like I was single again as the night progressed.
I met a lot of new people, men and women and really enjoyed simply chatting to them.
My jealousy was unfounded.
I realised that it was simply a result of my insecurities.
The fact that I was scared that she would find someone better made me hold her back in the first place.
3.
The Lesson I Learned Basically, we go out at least once a month to social events now and we take off our rings and simply mingle and have fun.
There is no harm involved and by doing so, we've found that our trust is stronger than ever.
We confessed at the end of the first night that we both were keeping an eye on each other throughout the night and that we both felt jealous.
However, by taking the leap, we now have a greater appreciation for each other when we leave the party and go home together.
If you have trouble understanding men, just realize that we're jealous beings.
We're probably just as jealous as you are though.
We are scared of losing you, but if you simply tell your man that you're his and let him mingle as a single man, he would realise that all his fears are simply caused by his ego.
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