I am a firm believer that each and every person on this planet has the personal power to create and achieve whatever measure of success they desire on an individual basis in any area of life from choosing someone to love, positive and supportive friendships, achieving optimum health and fitness, choosing the ideal career, being financially fit, to personal and spiritual growth. I have been a student of personal development for 22 years and I know that you can live life on purpose or by default, the choice is yours. Making a decision to go on vacation takes planning. Would you, after deciding to take a trip, get on a plane without knowing its destination? Why then would you not take time to creatively design every area of your life's path?
EXERCISE YOUR PERSONAL POWER
I marvel in the fact that God has given me the tools to create my world according to my hearts desire. As I believe I receive. I will be the first to admit that I have on occasion lived life by default in certain areas of life. I have feverishly set my intentions for success in the areas of career, health & fitness, finances, education, personal and spiritual growth. When it came to romance or choosing my significant other or family planning fell way to default. The only criteria needed at that time was physical attraction and sometimes that requirement fell short. There was a time when my personal self-worth was so low that I consistently attracted relationships that mirrored what I felt about myself at the time. I can choose to not take full responsibility for my choices and place the blame on the other person for not valuing me, honoring me or respecting me in the way that I felt I should have been valued, honored and respected. However, I always examine myself by asking enough questions until I am clear as to my personal choices and not make the same mistakes over again. I did not realize how low myself-worth was until I had grown as a person and placed higher expectations and prerequisites on my perspective partners. What I learned about myself in the process of growing as a person and while introspecting was that once my personal value increased the men that I allowed into my space treated me according to how I treated myself. If you are an attractive person, you will "attract" every type. It is up to you to examine yourself, set your boundaries, your expectations, your likes and dislikes, your qualifications, etc. Choosing a mate or life partner is one of the most important decisions you will ever make in life. It is vital that you choose wisely. Please know that even under the best circumstances doesn't automatically guarantee "a happily ever after" but your chances are much greater for success if you purposely exercise your personal power by creatively designing this area of your life.
If you are reading this and perhaps my personal story is personally familiar to yours, here are a few questions you may want to ask yourself: Ex: What about me attracted a person like this? Is it okay for me to be mistreated, lied to, verbally or physically abused, cheated on, abandoned, misused, etc.? How long am I willing to put up with being treated this way? What can I do to make a better choice next time? What characteristics should I look for in a mate other than physical attraction? How long should I wait before engaging in sexual relations? How can I raise my personal self-worth so I can naturally attract what I am looking for? What areas of life do I need to grow in so that I can attract the type of man or woman I desire? What does a successful relationship look like? What are my personal values? How would I like my ideal mate to treat me? What qualities in a mate are negotiable or non-negotiable?
One of the biggest mistakes you can make is falling for the fantasy and everybody has one. I've heard women say things like "I can love him enough for the both of us", "Even though he says he doesn't want a serious relationship, I know I can change his mind", "I can make him love me", " everything will be perfect once we are married", "he will treat me better once we have children", "He beat me pretty bad but it was my fault, I know he loves me", "I thought he would stop cheating on me once we were married", "If I leave, no one else will want me" , "I'm lonely and I don't want to be alone", etc…
Ladies and gentlemen, stop making excuses to stay or get involved in negative non-supportive relationships. It's okay to be alone. There is great, great value in spending quality time with self. You have the opportunity to grab your journal and self introspect. You get to purposely design this area of your life just like you did when you mapped out your college education and/or career path. You can have SUCCESS in every area of your life on your terms if you set your intention accordingly.
Life Coaching can be a valuable tool in helping you become clear and setting your intention for success.
EXERCISE YOUR PERSONAL POWER
I marvel in the fact that God has given me the tools to create my world according to my hearts desire. As I believe I receive. I will be the first to admit that I have on occasion lived life by default in certain areas of life. I have feverishly set my intentions for success in the areas of career, health & fitness, finances, education, personal and spiritual growth. When it came to romance or choosing my significant other or family planning fell way to default. The only criteria needed at that time was physical attraction and sometimes that requirement fell short. There was a time when my personal self-worth was so low that I consistently attracted relationships that mirrored what I felt about myself at the time. I can choose to not take full responsibility for my choices and place the blame on the other person for not valuing me, honoring me or respecting me in the way that I felt I should have been valued, honored and respected. However, I always examine myself by asking enough questions until I am clear as to my personal choices and not make the same mistakes over again. I did not realize how low myself-worth was until I had grown as a person and placed higher expectations and prerequisites on my perspective partners. What I learned about myself in the process of growing as a person and while introspecting was that once my personal value increased the men that I allowed into my space treated me according to how I treated myself. If you are an attractive person, you will "attract" every type. It is up to you to examine yourself, set your boundaries, your expectations, your likes and dislikes, your qualifications, etc. Choosing a mate or life partner is one of the most important decisions you will ever make in life. It is vital that you choose wisely. Please know that even under the best circumstances doesn't automatically guarantee "a happily ever after" but your chances are much greater for success if you purposely exercise your personal power by creatively designing this area of your life.
If you are reading this and perhaps my personal story is personally familiar to yours, here are a few questions you may want to ask yourself: Ex: What about me attracted a person like this? Is it okay for me to be mistreated, lied to, verbally or physically abused, cheated on, abandoned, misused, etc.? How long am I willing to put up with being treated this way? What can I do to make a better choice next time? What characteristics should I look for in a mate other than physical attraction? How long should I wait before engaging in sexual relations? How can I raise my personal self-worth so I can naturally attract what I am looking for? What areas of life do I need to grow in so that I can attract the type of man or woman I desire? What does a successful relationship look like? What are my personal values? How would I like my ideal mate to treat me? What qualities in a mate are negotiable or non-negotiable?
One of the biggest mistakes you can make is falling for the fantasy and everybody has one. I've heard women say things like "I can love him enough for the both of us", "Even though he says he doesn't want a serious relationship, I know I can change his mind", "I can make him love me", " everything will be perfect once we are married", "he will treat me better once we have children", "He beat me pretty bad but it was my fault, I know he loves me", "I thought he would stop cheating on me once we were married", "If I leave, no one else will want me" , "I'm lonely and I don't want to be alone", etc…
Ladies and gentlemen, stop making excuses to stay or get involved in negative non-supportive relationships. It's okay to be alone. There is great, great value in spending quality time with self. You have the opportunity to grab your journal and self introspect. You get to purposely design this area of your life just like you did when you mapped out your college education and/or career path. You can have SUCCESS in every area of your life on your terms if you set your intention accordingly.
Life Coaching can be a valuable tool in helping you become clear and setting your intention for success.
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