Did you know that "fear" is something that pretty much affects everyone in some way or another, of which it is also something that we shouldn't be scared of either.
Instead, we should learn to embrace it because, by overcoming fear, we need not worry about the issue anymore.
Thus this would allow us to enjoy life a lot happier.
Sure, for some, fear can be an adrenaline rush and for some, fear can pretty much ruin their entire lives in one way or other.
To what extent or degree that fear would ruin someone's life is dependent on how much that fear affects that individual's life, and their daily activities.
For example, if a person has a fear of heights or flying then it could pretty much render that they would much prefer to take holidays that involves transport by car, and anything else that involves height such as going on an escalator, riding in a lift, or climbing up a ladder would be a non-visit area.
By all means it won't ruin their lives completely, but it would certainly have a profound effect on their daily lives and those around them i.
e.
close family members and friends.
However on a different note, there are many other types of fear and one that most commonly affects everyone in some way or other is: "The Fear of Failure.
" It is also probably regarded as one of the greatest fears people will experience during some point in their lives.
Fear of failure can be regarded as something that was influenced ever since our childhood lives.
The reason I state this is that when we were a child, whenever we did something wrong, our parents, teachers, guardians etc...
would probably grill us to death with criticism and comments about what we did wrong, why we were so useless, and that failure was not a option.
In fact, we were instilled with the idea that failure pretty much meant Armageddon, end of the world, that if we failed, we were useless and that they were wasting their time with us, since we did not achieve what they wanted.
The problem is that they didn't realise or understand that, if you instil the fear of failure in a child from an early age, it would have an undesirable profound effect on their later lives, which could be passed onto the next generation.
That effect can be described as "daunting incompetency" "Daunting incompetency" is like having a psychological mental leash effect where when someone is extremely criticised to a point where, when fear develops beyond a certain stage.
It has an psychological haunting effect which places the individual in a state of mentality, where they think and believe that whatever they do, it will always be wrong, that they can never do anything right, and that they are always continuously being accessed and monitored.
Additionally, it also has the power to make someone feel powerless and cause a void in one's own self-confidence, which also makes them vulnerable to the effects of being unable to make decisions for themselves, and have to rely upon others to decide for them instead.
Obviously as with all things in life is, not everyone will develop such a mentality or such state of mind, because surprisingly they are people who have yet to discover or experienced failure.
Strange as that may sound, but there are actual people in this world who have never failed and it is these individuals that should be the most worried because when failure comes knocking on their doorstep.
One thing that is quite is that they will be the most unprepared to deal with the aftermath.
Then there are those who have seen failure and because, the fear of failure has had such an devastating impact previously on their lives that they become extremely competitive, they have the utmost desire to succeed at everything they do and be the best at what they do, and they try to protect themselves from the fear of failure at all costs.
What's most interesting to know is that those who have not yet discovered or experienced failure, and those who have and try to safeguard themselves from failure again, have the following in common.
In the back of their mind, their inner self, they have a common weakness.
That weakness is they simply cannot and will not accept failure in any shape, form or any situation.
When they do eventually fail, they freak out, get highly stressed about the situation and some of them even develop: mental breakdowns, anger, depression, as well as being easily agitated and impatient.
Traits and symptoms which if developed even further could lead to a potential disaster and possibly even requiring visits to a mental institution or requiring the help of a psychiatrist.
Seriously, the fear and thought of failure alone can exert great pressures on an individual own mind, which without a break, or some time to relax can have disastrous consequences, of which the aforementioned could even possibly ruin an individuals' life.
However, fear whether than be in the form of phobias, or fear in relation to failure, or rejection can be controlled, overcome and dispelled.
The best way to approach it is to first establish the reasons of your fear, then planning a method to approach and overcome it.
Did you know I use to be scared of spiders, creepy crawlies and anything else that had 6 legs or more as a kid.
It terrified me so much that when I saw one, I would yell for either my mum or my younger brother, and leap off the floor on to something, whether that was the sofa, a chair, table, bed etc...
Luckily now, I'm not so freaked out by then.
My only guess is that perhaps as one matures, confidence grows and sooner or later phobias disappear.
Or it may have been that desperate situations caused for desperate measures.
You see, one day when it happened, out or nowhere, there was this spider suddenly scuttling along the kitchen floor.
I freaked out at first, but then I thought, if I don't stop this thing, what happens if it crawls upstairs and enters my mouth whilst asleep.
And so I started to seek and destroy mission, find the spider and then give it a good bashing.
Somehow it didn't end up like that.
Instead, I saw it enter a corner and I grabbed a glass jar and placed it over, trapping the poor thing inside, which I had always feared from.
I contemplated about leaving it there to either my mum or my brother to come along and kill it, but as I was thinking, I started to look at it for a while, and thought to myself, they really aren't that scary at all.
In fact, they may be the ones who are scared of me instead.
And so I went to the lounge, grabbed a piece of card which I couldn't find (I had to make do with a piece of scrap paper folded in halves until it because quite stiff, then gently and carefully slipped it along the floor and under the glass jar, making sure it couldn't escape, quickly flipped it over, hand with paper over the end, walked to the front door, and let it go outside.
It was at that point, I felt somewhat strange.
Strange in that yes, I did freak out a little at first, and yes, I did have intentions to kill it, but I didn't.
Instead, I just temporarily captured it in a glass jar and then let it free back outside the house to do its own business.
However, the main concern was that I also felt like I was free.
Free from what I had feared for many of my childhood years and free in that, I was able to confront these 8 legged invertebrates and still be able to remain calm, cool and for once, not having to rely on others to deal with the situation.
It certainly signalled a new change for me.
For some, they may think I'm a wuss for being scared of a spider, but seriously, the sense of feeling you get when you have confronted your fear which has been scaring the hell out of you for many years is indescribable.
So, if you have any fears, confront them and if you have any doubts, seek help in resolving them at first.
However if you really want to be free from your fears whether that be spiders, heights, failure or whatever else you may be afraid of, you must be prepared to take action steps towards overcoming it and acknowledge that only you yourself can overcome your fear and that it first starts with you changing you mentality perspective.
Remember: "People who succeed are those who can overcome their own fears by not letting fear challenging them first, but instead...
they challenge fear first!"
Instead, we should learn to embrace it because, by overcoming fear, we need not worry about the issue anymore.
Thus this would allow us to enjoy life a lot happier.
Sure, for some, fear can be an adrenaline rush and for some, fear can pretty much ruin their entire lives in one way or other.
To what extent or degree that fear would ruin someone's life is dependent on how much that fear affects that individual's life, and their daily activities.
For example, if a person has a fear of heights or flying then it could pretty much render that they would much prefer to take holidays that involves transport by car, and anything else that involves height such as going on an escalator, riding in a lift, or climbing up a ladder would be a non-visit area.
By all means it won't ruin their lives completely, but it would certainly have a profound effect on their daily lives and those around them i.
e.
close family members and friends.
However on a different note, there are many other types of fear and one that most commonly affects everyone in some way or other is: "The Fear of Failure.
" It is also probably regarded as one of the greatest fears people will experience during some point in their lives.
Fear of failure can be regarded as something that was influenced ever since our childhood lives.
The reason I state this is that when we were a child, whenever we did something wrong, our parents, teachers, guardians etc...
would probably grill us to death with criticism and comments about what we did wrong, why we were so useless, and that failure was not a option.
In fact, we were instilled with the idea that failure pretty much meant Armageddon, end of the world, that if we failed, we were useless and that they were wasting their time with us, since we did not achieve what they wanted.
The problem is that they didn't realise or understand that, if you instil the fear of failure in a child from an early age, it would have an undesirable profound effect on their later lives, which could be passed onto the next generation.
That effect can be described as "daunting incompetency" "Daunting incompetency" is like having a psychological mental leash effect where when someone is extremely criticised to a point where, when fear develops beyond a certain stage.
It has an psychological haunting effect which places the individual in a state of mentality, where they think and believe that whatever they do, it will always be wrong, that they can never do anything right, and that they are always continuously being accessed and monitored.
Additionally, it also has the power to make someone feel powerless and cause a void in one's own self-confidence, which also makes them vulnerable to the effects of being unable to make decisions for themselves, and have to rely upon others to decide for them instead.
Obviously as with all things in life is, not everyone will develop such a mentality or such state of mind, because surprisingly they are people who have yet to discover or experienced failure.
Strange as that may sound, but there are actual people in this world who have never failed and it is these individuals that should be the most worried because when failure comes knocking on their doorstep.
One thing that is quite is that they will be the most unprepared to deal with the aftermath.
Then there are those who have seen failure and because, the fear of failure has had such an devastating impact previously on their lives that they become extremely competitive, they have the utmost desire to succeed at everything they do and be the best at what they do, and they try to protect themselves from the fear of failure at all costs.
What's most interesting to know is that those who have not yet discovered or experienced failure, and those who have and try to safeguard themselves from failure again, have the following in common.
In the back of their mind, their inner self, they have a common weakness.
That weakness is they simply cannot and will not accept failure in any shape, form or any situation.
When they do eventually fail, they freak out, get highly stressed about the situation and some of them even develop: mental breakdowns, anger, depression, as well as being easily agitated and impatient.
Traits and symptoms which if developed even further could lead to a potential disaster and possibly even requiring visits to a mental institution or requiring the help of a psychiatrist.
Seriously, the fear and thought of failure alone can exert great pressures on an individual own mind, which without a break, or some time to relax can have disastrous consequences, of which the aforementioned could even possibly ruin an individuals' life.
However, fear whether than be in the form of phobias, or fear in relation to failure, or rejection can be controlled, overcome and dispelled.
The best way to approach it is to first establish the reasons of your fear, then planning a method to approach and overcome it.
Did you know I use to be scared of spiders, creepy crawlies and anything else that had 6 legs or more as a kid.
It terrified me so much that when I saw one, I would yell for either my mum or my younger brother, and leap off the floor on to something, whether that was the sofa, a chair, table, bed etc...
Luckily now, I'm not so freaked out by then.
My only guess is that perhaps as one matures, confidence grows and sooner or later phobias disappear.
Or it may have been that desperate situations caused for desperate measures.
You see, one day when it happened, out or nowhere, there was this spider suddenly scuttling along the kitchen floor.
I freaked out at first, but then I thought, if I don't stop this thing, what happens if it crawls upstairs and enters my mouth whilst asleep.
And so I started to seek and destroy mission, find the spider and then give it a good bashing.
Somehow it didn't end up like that.
Instead, I saw it enter a corner and I grabbed a glass jar and placed it over, trapping the poor thing inside, which I had always feared from.
I contemplated about leaving it there to either my mum or my brother to come along and kill it, but as I was thinking, I started to look at it for a while, and thought to myself, they really aren't that scary at all.
In fact, they may be the ones who are scared of me instead.
And so I went to the lounge, grabbed a piece of card which I couldn't find (I had to make do with a piece of scrap paper folded in halves until it because quite stiff, then gently and carefully slipped it along the floor and under the glass jar, making sure it couldn't escape, quickly flipped it over, hand with paper over the end, walked to the front door, and let it go outside.
It was at that point, I felt somewhat strange.
Strange in that yes, I did freak out a little at first, and yes, I did have intentions to kill it, but I didn't.
Instead, I just temporarily captured it in a glass jar and then let it free back outside the house to do its own business.
However, the main concern was that I also felt like I was free.
Free from what I had feared for many of my childhood years and free in that, I was able to confront these 8 legged invertebrates and still be able to remain calm, cool and for once, not having to rely on others to deal with the situation.
It certainly signalled a new change for me.
For some, they may think I'm a wuss for being scared of a spider, but seriously, the sense of feeling you get when you have confronted your fear which has been scaring the hell out of you for many years is indescribable.
So, if you have any fears, confront them and if you have any doubts, seek help in resolving them at first.
However if you really want to be free from your fears whether that be spiders, heights, failure or whatever else you may be afraid of, you must be prepared to take action steps towards overcoming it and acknowledge that only you yourself can overcome your fear and that it first starts with you changing you mentality perspective.
Remember: "People who succeed are those who can overcome their own fears by not letting fear challenging them first, but instead...
they challenge fear first!"
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