We spend our lives talking and thinking about our relationships. Loving relationships do not just happen, they take time, effort, patience and people who truly want to share their lives together. It's really easy to neglect relationships, even without realising it, taking things for granted. Love is the answer, but sharing our lives with other people isn't easy. Learning how to be in a relationship can have its challenges. I truly believe, as long as we are listening and learning, we have the ability to keep our relationships moving forward.
Every year millions of dollars are spent trying to find the ideal relationship and to make the ones we have better, books, lectures, seminars from so-called "dating and relationship experts" are all around. I think it is important to selectively read what some of them have to say as "experts" often offer simple opinions. Their advice can fail to resonate and very often they contradict each other. Still, if they can help remind us of things we know but in the daily grind of life can easily be forgotten, then they have, at least, some value. So, I read and listen with an open mind. They can contain interesting information and suggest powerful techniques to bring more love into your life but we need to filter every single line, using common sense and experience.
So, as an aide memoir to help guide and maximize the joy and satisfaction I achieve from the most important relationship in my life, I decided to build my own love manual. To take the best of what I've read, what I know, how I feel and to use this to construct my own personal guide. I call my manual "The 7 Rules of Love". I have selected seven, of what I believe, to be the most powerful rules of love. I have them written in my notebook, as my personal code- 7 Love Rules so that Love Rules!
Rule One: Forgive, quickly and genuinely.
Misunderstanding is unavoidable. It becomes a huge problem when you allow it to grow. We must accept difference, refuse to judge and embrace what we have in common. Compromise doesn't mean defeat. I agree with Carl Jung: "Where love rules, there is no will to power"
Rule Two: Know when to listen and when to act.
This rule comes down to timing: sometimes it's best not to try to fix our partners problem, but to just be there for your partner. To listen when they are upset. Empathy and understanding can be so powerful. Sometimes they are more important than words.
Rule Three: Don't expect anything.
Nobody can read our mind and stay in tune with us 100% of the time. Communicate. Make sure your partner understands you and what you want in and from this relationship. It will help them to be more attentive to your needsâEUR¦ But still, don't expect anything.
Rule Four: Learn to trust and acknowledge your weaknesses.
Respect and trust. Trust and respect.
Rule Five: Encourage each other's progress and development
Rule Six: Always remember: some things cannot be changed, just accepted.
All of us have "our past "and unfortunately we cannot press the "delete" button. We need to accept certain facts and learn to live with them. We must never look back, just look forward otherwise the relationship will be destroyed.
Rule Seven: Show your feelings.
I am a strong believer in not playing games and saying "I Love You" every day, as often as possible.
Trust, communication, and mutual respect are the essential ingredients. A loving and happy relationship is not a given, not to any one of us, unfortunately. But, it is our right to want it. To find such a relationship with another person, is, I believe, the greatest challenge in life. Finding it and living it each day is the greatest gift we can have, the greatest success we can achieve.
Every year millions of dollars are spent trying to find the ideal relationship and to make the ones we have better, books, lectures, seminars from so-called "dating and relationship experts" are all around. I think it is important to selectively read what some of them have to say as "experts" often offer simple opinions. Their advice can fail to resonate and very often they contradict each other. Still, if they can help remind us of things we know but in the daily grind of life can easily be forgotten, then they have, at least, some value. So, I read and listen with an open mind. They can contain interesting information and suggest powerful techniques to bring more love into your life but we need to filter every single line, using common sense and experience.
So, as an aide memoir to help guide and maximize the joy and satisfaction I achieve from the most important relationship in my life, I decided to build my own love manual. To take the best of what I've read, what I know, how I feel and to use this to construct my own personal guide. I call my manual "The 7 Rules of Love". I have selected seven, of what I believe, to be the most powerful rules of love. I have them written in my notebook, as my personal code- 7 Love Rules so that Love Rules!
Rule One: Forgive, quickly and genuinely.
Misunderstanding is unavoidable. It becomes a huge problem when you allow it to grow. We must accept difference, refuse to judge and embrace what we have in common. Compromise doesn't mean defeat. I agree with Carl Jung: "Where love rules, there is no will to power"
Rule Two: Know when to listen and when to act.
This rule comes down to timing: sometimes it's best not to try to fix our partners problem, but to just be there for your partner. To listen when they are upset. Empathy and understanding can be so powerful. Sometimes they are more important than words.
Rule Three: Don't expect anything.
Nobody can read our mind and stay in tune with us 100% of the time. Communicate. Make sure your partner understands you and what you want in and from this relationship. It will help them to be more attentive to your needsâEUR¦ But still, don't expect anything.
Rule Four: Learn to trust and acknowledge your weaknesses.
Respect and trust. Trust and respect.
Rule Five: Encourage each other's progress and development
Rule Six: Always remember: some things cannot be changed, just accepted.
All of us have "our past "and unfortunately we cannot press the "delete" button. We need to accept certain facts and learn to live with them. We must never look back, just look forward otherwise the relationship will be destroyed.
Rule Seven: Show your feelings.
I am a strong believer in not playing games and saying "I Love You" every day, as often as possible.
Trust, communication, and mutual respect are the essential ingredients. A loving and happy relationship is not a given, not to any one of us, unfortunately. But, it is our right to want it. To find such a relationship with another person, is, I believe, the greatest challenge in life. Finding it and living it each day is the greatest gift we can have, the greatest success we can achieve.
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