Single parents have a difficult time juggling online relationships and their parental duties.
I personally do not believe the children should be involved with our online dating issues until a solid relationship has been formed.
I'm not talking about the relationship where you are sure you are in love after 72 hours, 214 emails, 32 I.
M.
sessions, and several all night phone calls! That is loneliness, lust and infatuation.
So, no...
do not tell your children about your online love! I meet so many singles that are introducing their children to their "online love" every week end via webcams and phone calls.
The reason...
"well, the person I meet needs to know it is a package deal!" It's not a package deal if it's not a relationship! Should I tell my children about my online love? No...
because it isn't love.
Yet...
Children in single homes do not need to feel more insecurity than they may already feel.
Please don't let the children know every time you meet someone new online that is "the one"! If you want to take yourself onto these unstrapped, emotional roller coasters on a weekly basis? You are an adult and you certainly have that right.
But you do not have the right to take your innocent children along for the ride! Once the relationship has progressed solidly and safely to the point where you are really close to meeting, at that time I would tell the children.
But I would not make a "physical introduction" to the "potential love".
When you do decide to tell your children, do not give them the impression that it is going to blossom into in offline relationship and they are all going to be "one big happy family"! Just see how it plays out...
only inform them of the "mile stones".
Not every little aspect of the relationship "blow by blow"! To sum up the question; should I tell my children about my online love? The answer is: not until it is an actual, real relationship.
You will be very glad you waited!
I personally do not believe the children should be involved with our online dating issues until a solid relationship has been formed.
I'm not talking about the relationship where you are sure you are in love after 72 hours, 214 emails, 32 I.
M.
sessions, and several all night phone calls! That is loneliness, lust and infatuation.
So, no...
do not tell your children about your online love! I meet so many singles that are introducing their children to their "online love" every week end via webcams and phone calls.
The reason...
"well, the person I meet needs to know it is a package deal!" It's not a package deal if it's not a relationship! Should I tell my children about my online love? No...
because it isn't love.
Yet...
Children in single homes do not need to feel more insecurity than they may already feel.
Please don't let the children know every time you meet someone new online that is "the one"! If you want to take yourself onto these unstrapped, emotional roller coasters on a weekly basis? You are an adult and you certainly have that right.
But you do not have the right to take your innocent children along for the ride! Once the relationship has progressed solidly and safely to the point where you are really close to meeting, at that time I would tell the children.
But I would not make a "physical introduction" to the "potential love".
When you do decide to tell your children, do not give them the impression that it is going to blossom into in offline relationship and they are all going to be "one big happy family"! Just see how it plays out...
only inform them of the "mile stones".
Not every little aspect of the relationship "blow by blow"! To sum up the question; should I tell my children about my online love? The answer is: not until it is an actual, real relationship.
You will be very glad you waited!
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