Here is a letter from someone who is asking the age-old question, which is, "Should I call him?" I am a 34-year-old single mother of one.
I met a man about seven years ago, at a friends wedding.
As an usher, he walked his sister down the aisle to her seat.
I was floored at how handsome he looked.
However, he was married.
In Dec '06, I saw his sister and she told me that her brother was now divorced and single...
he's 43.
His sister told me that she would ask her brother to attend church with her and then introduce us...
Well, that happened last weekend in front of his family.
I felt awkward and after he gave me his business card and cell phone number, I excused myself.
My question is, should I call him? When? How soon? He gave me his number on Saturday.
Should you call him?Absolutely.
He wouldn't have given you his card and cell number if he did not want to hear from you.
How soon?Call him as soon as possible.
It is amazing how quickly a contact can grow cold--in sales, business, or in the romance department.
If he is as attractive as you say, he may be taken before he gets home.
However, I do have a rule about calling guys, which is, ONE call only.
If he doesn't call you back, let it go.
When a guy doesn't follow through, it does no good to speculate why.
Any number of reasons could prevail, such as, he just saw his ex-wife and he still has feelings for her; he just met someone else; he is not ready to start dating; or, he recently got a dog and it isn't housebroken yet.
You'll probably never know, and it doesn't matter.
What does matter is that you gave it a shot.
Should you call him?Never pass up an opportunity to continue a conversation with someone you are attracted to.
What many women do not realize is that most guys are shy and may be afraid to call them.
So, there is no harm in making that first call.
However, if you press beyond the one call boundary, they may think you are aggressive, or worse, desperate.
Another reason you want to make the call, if he doesn't do it first, is that men are terrified of "rejection.
"I put the word rejection in quotes because no one can reject you unless you take it that way.
If someone is not interested in seeing you, forget about it.
When you have a strong, empowering perspective, you know immediately that you don't want to date him either if the feelings aren't mutual.
It must have been clear to everyone watching that he was interested in you.
I can understand why it must have felt awkward.
However, meeting someone through friends and family is one of the better ways to meet a "stranger.
"You automatically have access to some of his history, personality traits, and family background.
From the sound of your letter, there is a high probability that you will be going out with him.
But if you don't, there will be another attractive someone in your future.
The work you might want to think about is what type of requirements you have for a partner.
What exactly do you want? Listen carefully to what your next date talks about, notice how he treats his mother (and his children, if he has any), pay attention to how he relates to your child, and ask why his former relationships broke up.
What type of attitude does he carry around?Is he basically a negative or positive person?Does he have a nasty temper?What are his goals for the future and are they in sync with yours?What is his employment record like? These and other important issues take some time to emerge so don't commit too soon.
The bottom line is this: be selective, discerning, and very smart about dating because a special someone is looking for you too.
Go ahead and call him.
Maybe he's the one.
I met a man about seven years ago, at a friends wedding.
As an usher, he walked his sister down the aisle to her seat.
I was floored at how handsome he looked.
However, he was married.
In Dec '06, I saw his sister and she told me that her brother was now divorced and single...
he's 43.
His sister told me that she would ask her brother to attend church with her and then introduce us...
Well, that happened last weekend in front of his family.
I felt awkward and after he gave me his business card and cell phone number, I excused myself.
My question is, should I call him? When? How soon? He gave me his number on Saturday.
Should you call him?Absolutely.
He wouldn't have given you his card and cell number if he did not want to hear from you.
How soon?Call him as soon as possible.
It is amazing how quickly a contact can grow cold--in sales, business, or in the romance department.
If he is as attractive as you say, he may be taken before he gets home.
However, I do have a rule about calling guys, which is, ONE call only.
If he doesn't call you back, let it go.
When a guy doesn't follow through, it does no good to speculate why.
Any number of reasons could prevail, such as, he just saw his ex-wife and he still has feelings for her; he just met someone else; he is not ready to start dating; or, he recently got a dog and it isn't housebroken yet.
You'll probably never know, and it doesn't matter.
What does matter is that you gave it a shot.
Should you call him?Never pass up an opportunity to continue a conversation with someone you are attracted to.
What many women do not realize is that most guys are shy and may be afraid to call them.
So, there is no harm in making that first call.
However, if you press beyond the one call boundary, they may think you are aggressive, or worse, desperate.
Another reason you want to make the call, if he doesn't do it first, is that men are terrified of "rejection.
"I put the word rejection in quotes because no one can reject you unless you take it that way.
If someone is not interested in seeing you, forget about it.
When you have a strong, empowering perspective, you know immediately that you don't want to date him either if the feelings aren't mutual.
It must have been clear to everyone watching that he was interested in you.
I can understand why it must have felt awkward.
However, meeting someone through friends and family is one of the better ways to meet a "stranger.
"You automatically have access to some of his history, personality traits, and family background.
From the sound of your letter, there is a high probability that you will be going out with him.
But if you don't, there will be another attractive someone in your future.
The work you might want to think about is what type of requirements you have for a partner.
What exactly do you want? Listen carefully to what your next date talks about, notice how he treats his mother (and his children, if he has any), pay attention to how he relates to your child, and ask why his former relationships broke up.
What type of attitude does he carry around?Is he basically a negative or positive person?Does he have a nasty temper?What are his goals for the future and are they in sync with yours?What is his employment record like? These and other important issues take some time to emerge so don't commit too soon.
The bottom line is this: be selective, discerning, and very smart about dating because a special someone is looking for you too.
Go ahead and call him.
Maybe he's the one.
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