It is deep in the heart of wedding season. Birds are chirping, and so are wedding planners. You are part of this lovely time for young couples. You move through the moments leading up to the big day in a cheerful, pleasant disposition. That is, until your fiance calls of the wedding. That's when it all comes crashing down.

At this point, you don't want to be wallowing in misery. People break up every day, wedding or no wedding. The difference is that many of those people work hard to try to patch things up and get back together again. Oftentimes this works, many times it doesn't. But, it is guaranteed that out of all those couples who never even tried, one hundred percent of them failed to repair their relationships and get back together again. Don't let this be you, if you truly love your fiance. It's time to go to work, isn't it? Let's go over five techniques that have been shown to work, when a little effort on your part stands behind it.

First things first, you don't want to be down for very long. Get over the initial shock of the situation quickly, so that you can get a square head on your shoulders. Mushy minds don't win fiances back. You don't want anyone, least of all your fiance, to feel that you have been struck down in misery. Workout, exercise, stay active, so that your mind doesn't get flabby on you. You want to be the strong person that your fiance fell in love with way back when. You want to show that this strength of character is what she will get when she decides to go on with your wedding again.

Next, get it into your mind that your fiance still loves you, and just might be going through some tough times herself. If she didn't love you, she would not have gone so far as to work on wedding plans. Be a positive person, capable of getting through the tough times, whether they are getting to the alter in the first place, or any relationship storms that are inevitably going to head your way. You are the captain of your ship, and it is sailing into her port. This will encourage her.

Then, put some thought into why your fiance called the wedding off. There is a definite reason for this. Be the big man and accept that some of it (or most of it) could have been your fault. Sure, it takes two to tango, as the saying goes, but no one is perfect. She might have called off the wedding, but it might not entirely be her fault. If a relationship is to last, and grow strong, it must be allowed to go through periods of testing the resolve of both individuals. You will each make mistakes, but the strongest relationship is one in which either can admit to their mistakes, work through them, and move forward. Not as easy as reading about it, but essential and learnable nonetheless.

Fourth, communication is a key feature in any serious relationship, whether going forward full steam ahead, or on hiatus due to a hiccup or two. This is an emotional time for both of you, so you don't want to spout off something you will regret later. Give it a little time and distance, gather together what you want to say to her, to help the two of you get through this, for when you are ready to face each other again. This is such an important step to get right that you don't want to hurry through it. The reunion will happen in its time. Just be ready for it.

Last, look to others who have had experience in helping others whose fiance has called of their wedding. They might have even had it happen to them directly, and they got through it, and are now helping others. Love may find a way, but having a guide get you there can sometimes be a big relief for you and your fiance. There is nothing wrong in admitting that you might not have all of the answers, and that you need help from the outside. Just being willing to get help can show your fiance that you really do want to get back together again.