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Everyone gets angry at one time or another. But the difference between purposeful, productive anger and destructive anger is vast. Appropriate anger can be used to make a point passionately, but in measured terms. However, when we are out of control, anger can be counterproductive, making us incapable of communicating effectively. Furthermore, it can hurt those around us and be especially hurtful and frightening to children.
In our Torah portion this week there is a story of two men fighting with one another. One is so angry that he curses the other, using God's name in vain. The Torah makes clear that cursing, even when one does so in the course of anger, is not permissible. Anger doesn't excuse destructive behavior.
We might commit many destructive acts when we are angry. We might throw things, slam doors, or curse. However, when possible, controlling anger in a measured and purposeful way is the best way to model good communication. The best way to control anger is to think about what the point of the anger is before acting. We can then make a conscious decision concerning whether getting angry is the best course of action for the situation at hand.
TALK TO YOUR KIDS about the destructive things people sometimes do when they get angry.
CONNECT TO THEIR LIVES:
By Rabbi Dianne Cohler-Esses
© 2009, 2010 Joyce and Fred Claar
Fred Claar, Content Creator/Editor
Before retiring, Fred Claar was President of Claar Bros., Inc., a wholesale diamond company. He is currently a member of the Board of Jewish Education of New York/SAJES, a Board member of JESNA, a Board member of METNY of USCJ, and a member of two COJIR task forces of UJA (Communal Jewish Education & Jewish Community Development). Fred teaches Pirke Avot to high schoolers once a month and frequently teaches school groups from 7th grade through college about the Holocaust at the Museum of Jewish Heritage in NYC.
As a continuing student, Fred takes several Talmud or related courses annually. Previously, around 1980, Fred created a successful Judaic family program built around the weekly Torah portion for the National Young Leadership Cabinet of UJA and was the patron of BJE's "Around the Shabbat Table" from 2003 to 2007. A 1963 graduate of Tufts University, where Fred met his wife of 46 years, Joyce, they live in Westchester near their children and grandchildren and are members of Congregation Sulam Yaakov.
Everyone gets angry at one time or another. But the difference between purposeful, productive anger and destructive anger is vast. Appropriate anger can be used to make a point passionately, but in measured terms. However, when we are out of control, anger can be counterproductive, making us incapable of communicating effectively. Furthermore, it can hurt those around us and be especially hurtful and frightening to children.
In our Torah portion this week there is a story of two men fighting with one another. One is so angry that he curses the other, using God's name in vain. The Torah makes clear that cursing, even when one does so in the course of anger, is not permissible. Anger doesn't excuse destructive behavior.
We might commit many destructive acts when we are angry. We might throw things, slam doors, or curse. However, when possible, controlling anger in a measured and purposeful way is the best way to model good communication. The best way to control anger is to think about what the point of the anger is before acting. We can then make a conscious decision concerning whether getting angry is the best course of action for the situation at hand.
TALK TO YOUR KIDS about the destructive things people sometimes do when they get angry.
CONNECT TO THEIR LIVES:
- · What makes you angry?
- · What do you do when you get angry?
- · How do you feel when someone else gets angry?
- · What are the best ways to manage your anger?
- · Have you ever accomplished anything lasting in anger?
By Rabbi Dianne Cohler-Esses
© 2009, 2010 Joyce and Fred Claar
Fred Claar, Content Creator/Editor
Before retiring, Fred Claar was President of Claar Bros., Inc., a wholesale diamond company. He is currently a member of the Board of Jewish Education of New York/SAJES, a Board member of JESNA, a Board member of METNY of USCJ, and a member of two COJIR task forces of UJA (Communal Jewish Education & Jewish Community Development). Fred teaches Pirke Avot to high schoolers once a month and frequently teaches school groups from 7th grade through college about the Holocaust at the Museum of Jewish Heritage in NYC.
As a continuing student, Fred takes several Talmud or related courses annually. Previously, around 1980, Fred created a successful Judaic family program built around the weekly Torah portion for the National Young Leadership Cabinet of UJA and was the patron of BJE's "Around the Shabbat Table" from 2003 to 2007. A 1963 graduate of Tufts University, where Fred met his wife of 46 years, Joyce, they live in Westchester near their children and grandchildren and are members of Congregation Sulam Yaakov.
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