Do you want to get back with the ex, but you are not sure whether it's a good idea or not? Do you feel torn - wishing for the good times, but thankful that the bad times are over? How can you decide if you should get back with the ex, or not? Obviously, this is the type of situation that requires some analysis.
Here are some of the pros and cons that may help you think more clearly about whether you should get back with the ex.
The Negatives: Why People Choose To Stay Apart There are some very negative things that should obviously keep the two of you separated.
The fact is, sometimes people are just not right for each other - and deep inside they know it! If you ever found yourself wondering whether the ex was always faithful, and if he exhibited signs of cheating constantly, then it might not be time to get back with the ex, unless you're sure you are not in for more of the same.
Why waste your time with someone who is inherently unfaithful, when there are so many great guys out there, just begging for a chance to be with someone who needs a nice man in her life? Another reason not to get back with the ex is abuse.
Was he ever mentally, verbally, or physically abusive? If so, he should be left alone.
You can do a lot better.
Was your ex a control freak? If he tried to control every aspect of your life, it's probably a good idea to stay apart.
A guy like your ex just isn't happy unless he can keep you under his thumb.
The Positives: Why You Should Get Back With The Ex If you broke up because of minor differences, or simply drifted apart, and now both of you are wishing that you were back together, you might want to get back with the ex and give the relationship another try.
Did you always feel very much at home with him? Did you argue just a little and get over your differences fairly quickly? Were you sorry pretty much the second you two broke up? You might have let your soulmate get away! Go after him! If you were together for a long time, and broke up over something silly, then it's probably not a bad idea to get back together.
In fact, if you have quite a history together and broke up over something fairly major, like infidelity, you still might have a chance to recover your relationship.
If you both realize what went wrong, and can get to the root cause of your problem, then it's very likely that getting over this problem together and attempting to live apart from each other might end up to be the proverbial shot in the arm your relationship needs to be renewed.
Whether you think you should get back with the ex, or not, be sure to spend some time reflecting on the problems you had and learn what you can from those problems.
Whether you move forward with another attempt at an old relationship, or if you eventually end up in a new one, the lessons you have learned from the problems you have been through can help you more than you might realize.